I’m not a big believer in New Year’s Resolutions. I’ve always thought that if you really want to do something in life, make time for or accomplish something, you’ll eventually (to coin a Nike marketing phrase) just do it. There’s no time like the present and New Year’s Day or not, if you truly want to do something, you’ll do it and if not, well, maybe you don’t want it as badly as you’d originally thought. That said, there’s something about a new year, a fresh start, a clean white board, that gives one a tiny bit more motivation, that extra push to get a long languishing project moving.
In goal-setting, it’s always important to break big goals into smaller, more realistic steps and the same holds true for resolutions. You could resolve to be a better person….but specifically, how? You could resolve to be more organized, but what steps can you take to get there?
Pushing aside the notion that resolutions need to be daunting tasks that can only be thought of once a year, I’ve made a small, starting list for myself that I hope will have some impact.
1) I resolve that each time I want to curse silently – or not so silently – at an impolite or even dangerous driver on the road, I will take a deep breath and remind myself that they win when I feel stress.
2) I resolve that every time I think about calling, emailing, texting or otherwise reaching out to a friend or loved one I haven’t connected with in awhile that instead of saying I’ll do it later when I’m not busy (as if!), I will take five minutes to actually reach out or, at the very least, I will put it on the to-do list with an actual deadline so it becomes a priority.
3) I resolve to focus more and multi-task less. The phone doesn’t need to be constantly in hand, the texts can wait and no reason to try to “save time” by responding to emails while on conference calls. Constant multi-tasking creates more stress and even more work. Better to focus on one thing at a time…unless of course it’s folding laundry while watching TV!
4) I resolve to walk past the mess and clutter in the house at least once a week without stressing out, picking it up or yelling at someone about it. Life’s too short, right?!
5) I resolve to have books, music, writing, exercising and conversation add up to more hours each day than any time spent on social media. I’m talking to you, new Pinterest addiction!
6) I resolve to put forth energy and action for at least one cause I believe in, rather than just ranting about it or reposting rants on Facebook and Twitter. Action speaks louder than words.
Are you making any resolutions this year? Do you think it’s a useful practice. Happy New Year and all the best to you and yours in 2013!
7 thoughts on “New Year’s Resolutions for Even the Most Non-Resolute”
Love your writings Lori!!!!!!!!!!
Judy Kaplan🐞 Sent from my iPad🌴
Good stuff, Lori! Less multitasking and more focus is one of mine as well. Best to you in 2013!
Thanks, Tracy! Let’s see how successful we are on that less multitasking resolution!!
This could be my list. 🙂 I am especially fond of #5. I feel like I succeeded marginally with similar goals last year. I made more time for people and passions. It felt really good. I hope to continue the practice in 2013. All the best to you! I hope to see more of your writing. I enjoy your take on the crazy suburban/urban life.
Thanks, Brenna – appreciate the kind words!